Today I’m going to give some advice to my 16-year-old self, or any 16-year-old who might be reading this.
Life can often be confusing, erratic, and difficult, and even more so when you’re a teenager. I think if I had heard this advice as a teenager, I might have done things differently and been a different person. Even though I love the person I am today and I don’t have many regrets, I could still have benefited from the following advice.
- Trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.
- Being nihilistic is boring as hell.
- Don’t feel like you must hide the things that make you happy to adhere to the standards of others.
- On that note, other people’s opinions of you will never be as important as your opinion of you.
- 20-year-old men and older should not be interested in you. Do not trust them.
- Bottling up how you feel only magnifies those feelings. That usually ends up in disaster.
- Please don’t be afraid to ask for help. You are only 16 and you don’t know everything – it’s okay to need help and guidance.
- Failure is a good thing! Failure teaches you about your work ethic, your strengths and weaknesses, the things that you need to improve, and more. Plus, life would be super boring if everyone succeeded at everything every time.
- You’re not fat and ugly. And even if you were, it wouldn’t matter because life isn’t about being skinny and pretty.
- Life only has the meaning you give it.
- It’s okay to not know what you want to do with your life. Actress Kathryn Joosten didn’t even start acting in community theatre until she was 42…you have plenty of time.
- Being kind is way more revolutionary than rebellion is.
- Don’t be so serious all the time.
- It’s okay to pick up hobbies and interests and then drop them later. It just means you want to experience as much of the world as you can – you’re not unsuccessful.
- I know you’ve had your first heartbreaks, but it will be okay. It takes time – a lot of time – but it’ll be okay in the end and you’ll learn to love again.
- Stop worrying about the future – I have that covered! Just focus on the here and now.
- Please take more photos of the things and people who make you happy. You’ll love looking back on the ones you have.
- Yes, exams are important, but your mental health is important too. Find a balance.
- Please step away from the alcohol. It causes more problems than solutions.
- Life gets so much better soon, I promise!
What things would you like to tell your 16-year-old self? Is there any advice you would like to give any 16-year-olds? Leave a comment and let me know.
Thank you for reading and I hope I see you tomorrow!